Some effects of long term weave and relaxer use

Weaves and Relaxers

I'm wondering why black women spend so much $ on their hair, with weave and relaxers we spend so much time and effort not knowing the real damage. We relax our hair with breaks down the bonds in our hair to make it "behave" that itself is the reason a lot of us can't retain length. So many women wear weave not just black women but these sew-ins are aiding in the destruction of your hair. You break down the bonds which leaves your hair more susceptible to damage and then you braid it tightly and leave it alone for a month without moisture and the proper care plus you're not properly removing the weave and braids which leads to more damage. If you properly take care of your hair even relaxers aren't as damaging but let's not forget you're risking scalp burn, split ends, and breakage just to make your hair "easier to deal with. Get to know your natural hair it's not as rough as you think. Most black women don't know their hair's full potential because so much time and energy has gone into damaging and destroying. I'm going to dedicate a lot more of my posts educating black women on their hair potential with or without relaxers.

This is what your writing shouldn't look like.

I wrote this in response to an article for an English class. It wasn't suppose to be factual or anything so please don't think my writing is like this all time. It was all fun.

Dear Philip, Your article What’s Wrong with College for Women is complete bullshit. It’s the worst piece of creative writing I have ever read. I know that I know that it says it’s an essay but it if my firm belief that, you lied. There were no facts to support your argument, your argument was weak itself and it was stupid to begin with. A woman’s role is not limited to caring for and making babies. I believe the reason you wrote this misinformed essay is because you feel threatened by smart women. A man is only as good as the woman behind him but women don’t need men behind them. A woman’s brain is more complex than a male’s which make them more intelligent by default. A woman’s chromosomes XX show that females and males are not equal. Males have the XY chromosomes which can’t fit as many genes as two Xs can. Woman are physically stronger than men that’s why the responsibility of bearing children solely on them. Men generally use more pain killers than women because their bodies aren’t equip to deal with pain naturally like a woman’s body is. Women are the majority in the world and in college. Women have careers, babies and marriage. Mr. Philip your essay which tried to convince women that college was of no use to them if they wanted to have babies and be married is just ridiculous, it’s like saying men can’t think for themselves. Your essay proves nothing but that you’re a close minded man scared that a woman could take and do your job better than you. I’m not saying that women are better but I do believe that if you go through the trouble of keeping a group of people down and still they rise. It shows that they shouldn’t be underestimated or kept in the house to entertain children. Mr. Philip would I be wrong to say that men are stupid and closed minded because of your essay? Is it wrong to assume that most men feel this way? Does my essay disprove yours with facts and statistics? I’ll say my information is just about as credible as yours.

Something I'm working on

This doesn't have a title yet but it's something I'm working on.

Last summer I finally got my mom to pay attention to me. It only took 20 years and some wild nights. It wasn’t my intention at the time to get her to notice, I thought I was partying because it was fun not a cry for attention. I stopped doing that when I was around six and I got beat in the tub for it. After that I was very selective about the times I cried. It’s not until I think about my life that I realize my actions were for a reason and not the reason I intended in the first place. I’m not sure of the exact event that all this stems from, it could be the abuse or the neglect. I never thought any of it affected me. I thought I was the exception to these rules. I figured since I was so young when it happened that it didn’t matter. I thought I could be normal. Whatever that meant, it’s not until I’m in a relationship that I question why I am the way I am. I never noticed how distant I could be. It never dawned on me that I don’t have friends because of events that made me distrust them. I was hoping that I didn’t have to deal with those unanswered questions I had. When I was around six years old I was being molested by my brother’s dad. At the time I thought he was my dad and I didn’t know what was going on. All I knew was it made me feel weird and it felt wrong and that I needed to tell my mom. I tried to tell her for a long time but I never could because he was always around. I think he knew that I would tell. He didn’t threaten me to be quiet at first he tried to tell me to keep our secret. I was Queen Tattletale as a kid though and I ratted everyone out. I still can’t believe that was me. I was that little girl with my dolly and my pig tails. I guess that’s why I killed all my dolls after that. Nobody protected me from him, my mom left him home to watch me, and my brother was just clueless because in his eyes his dad could do no wrong. I was the monster once I released the secret.

Why are girls crazy?

I can't even begin to cover this topic in a way people will understand. What I do know is that we are crazy for reasons. Girls just don't go around cursing the world out and blowing up random cars and being serial killers because they can't get laid. We leave that to the men. Sure we can be unstable but think about it...What did you do to her? If your girlfriend is acting like a Psycho bitch chances are you did something to bring that out of her. If you're cheating and you think she doesn't know. She Knows. If you're an asshole and you thought she was this sweet little push over, run for the hills. Girls just don't jump off the deep end for small stuff unless something big happened before it. I'm saying more or less that girls are crazy because men make us that way

Do...or Don't ?

Is it really emasculating to a man if his wife chooses to keep her last name or get it hyphenated. I never thought it was a big deal to men one way or the other. They don't really give up everything with marriage. When a woman marries she "must" legally change her name. Why?! When I was a kid I was all for it because I never really thought too much about it but now as I plan on getting married in the distant future it's on my mind. I have the initials DDD and I have grown quite fond of it. 3 D's in a row is pretty cool, well it is to me. Another thing when a woman gets married she's kinda giving up some career goals because at some point the couple is gonna have the "Baby" talk and while having children is good for repopulating the Earth. What about the Lawyer who wants to make partner before 35? or the future Chemical Engineer who wants her PhD before 30? I just don't think there's anything wrong with the woman who gets married but wants to keep a big part of herself. Her last name. It means something to us, it's ours. I would kind of feel like a sell out just leaving Davis behind like that when I started my new life. It feels like I'm leaving a part of myself behind why must I feel that way. What's wrong with a hyphen anyway? I think of it as a compromise...just something that came up.