Do...or Don't ?

Is it really emasculating to a man if his wife chooses to keep her last name or get it hyphenated. I never thought it was a big deal to men one way or the other. They don't really give up everything with marriage. When a woman marries she "must" legally change her name. Why?! When I was a kid I was all for it because I never really thought too much about it but now as I plan on getting married in the distant future it's on my mind. I have the initials DDD and I have grown quite fond of it. 3 D's in a row is pretty cool, well it is to me. Another thing when a woman gets married she's kinda giving up some career goals because at some point the couple is gonna have the "Baby" talk and while having children is good for repopulating the Earth. What about the Lawyer who wants to make partner before 35? or the future Chemical Engineer who wants her PhD before 30? I just don't think there's anything wrong with the woman who gets married but wants to keep a big part of herself. Her last name. It means something to us, it's ours. I would kind of feel like a sell out just leaving Davis behind like that when I started my new life. It feels like I'm leaving a part of myself behind why must I feel that way. What's wrong with a hyphen anyway? I think of it as a compromise...just something that came up.